Have you read the article "23 Things To Do Instead Of Getting Engaged Before You're 23" ? It outlines things women should do instead of being focused on getting engaged. I know a lot of other bloggers have taken offense to it or agree with it, but I believe I'm more in the middle.
I understand where the author of the original article is coming from. I think that a lot of young women grow up thinking they'll either marry their high school sweetheart or their college sweetheart. We have this mental plan of how our life might go, and sometimes it doesn't always work out like that. This list could encourage young women to think of other opportunities for themselves. The author does judge harshly those who do decide to get married.
On the opposite side, I understand why those who decide to get married early in life would be offended. Some people find their soul mates early on in life, or there are outstanding circumstances such as significant others being in the military or terminal illness. To judge people without hearing their story is harsh. There are plenty of marriages that last a lifetime. I would be offended by that also if I had married early.
My personal opinion? Everyone is different! I am definitely guilty of judging those in my class who have been married since graduation. I realized it was more my own fear, like there is no way I could handle this right now. I also realize I am in a long distance relationship so thinking of marriage right now is a little scary. Not because of the person I'm with but because we are so far apart sometimes distance wise.
Everyone is ready for a relationship at different times. I have learned that everyone is ready for different steps at different times. I also think that marriage is something you have to be pretty confident about, and that includes in yourself and your partner. It might depend on if you want to settle down as a young adult also! I know a lot of people who just want to be by themselves at our age which I totally respect and understand.
I think this decision is an individual couple's responsibility and society should respect that. Each person is different, and if you are still a wanderer at 23 be a wanderer at 23. If you've found the love of your life, be with the love of your life in anyway you two decide. If you are still looking for the love of your life, look but also do things for you!
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Do what's best for you, regardless of judgement.